I'm not opposed to any romances forming in a story, some even capture my feelings. But what sours me is that whenever any pair--any kind at all is seen, someone on the internet just has
to put the two in a romantic context. Why? Why does it matter oh so much that two individuals get together-together? If you want to experience the warm, fuzzy atmosphere of romance, why not just--I dunno--watch a romance series? It's almost as though shippers, whether for one ship or many, want every genre to be sugarcoated with love because apparently it's that cute to them. But if you ask me, a relationship will happen if it happens; if it doesn't, what's the big deal? "Must Love" Mentality
Probably one of the most fundamental impressions I seem to be getting out of shippers--recoloring every character, or at least the ones they ship, as an amorous version of the original counterpart. But what if the character is simply better off without that lighting? There are many characters out there who don't regularly surround themselves with love and romance but do just fine! For instance, they may keep a level head, have meaningful ambitions, or lead a chill life--just something that does not need to involve love. But shipping can ruin that by making the character appear sillier, softer, and emotionally weaker--it can, for instance, turn a calm and collected man into a soft, pathetic looking fluff who acts like he just lost his balls (even if he's being controlled by them).Individual vs Couple
Oftentimes, shippers fail to appreciate a character as an individual because them, his/her only purpose is to become half of a pair. Personally, I think that'd be insulting to the character (who wants to be merely half of something?) Any individual may have so many different qualities you can focus on that him/her a stellar character whether in personality, ability, or story--sometimes enough to make a character decent enough on his/her own--things worth appreciating about the character him/herself! ...But no, obviously the most importantly thing is for this person to get with another and satisfy your wet dreams, hurr durr."Pair" = "Love Couple"?
There are way too many reasons why two individuals will be a pair: teamwork, efficiency, tracking, mere friendships, and yes go ahead--love. For shippers, there's only one that oughta replace every other possible reason. It's like you can't work with another person without potentially being treated like significant others with that person. "No, fuck you, I'm not in love with that guy. He's just an old friend of mine. We're studying together because we're in the same class. We're rivals because we want to surpass each other and shove it in each other's faces. And if you must know, we're also both in love with that girl
and this guy can't have her!"
People will ship any pair regardless of gender (okay, new age, still not my personal preference but I getcha), age, affiliation, or even species. Not like any combination could be fucked up right?What "feels right?"
The only ever answer I ever get from asking "why do people ship?" is "because it feels right." It's as vague as it gets. To tell you the truth, most ships I've seen don't feel right because it's so one sided. One of the more common kinds of ships I've seen involves triangles, or just some dudes and chicks. Dude 1 loves Chick A. Chick A loves Dude 2 instead. However, Chick B loves Dude 1. Most popular response? Dude 1 must get with Chick B because the girl loves him! Well, why not D1 and CA since the guy loves her? It's almost as if only the girl's wishes are prior. Now, not every ship I've seen is like this, this is just one of the more common scenarios I've seen--but this is coming from someone who's only seen so much of this trash.
So these are some of the reasons on the top of my head right now. There are probably more but I'm done for now.